just when we thought the wait was almost over
I spoke to our adoption coordinator Lauren yesterday. For unknown reasons, Russia has closed it's databank which in a nutshell means, they are not scheduling court dates to validate the adoptions. This is particularly problematic for families who have already been to Russia and have met their child and are awaiting the return trip. The shutdown has only been a week long and they surmise it is caused by some government re-organization going on since Putin was re-elected in March.
The adoption agency is mildly concerned but does not believe Russia will close down international adoptions because the head of the MInistry for family services is very pro-international adoption. So basically, she said, not to be alarmed, this is all a part of the process of adopting from a Foreign country.
the news did put a damper on my spirits. I did go to that dark place of doom and gloom, and started to wonder if we were ever going to have a baby at all.
Perhaps the dark feelings began the other night at our building Xmas party. Although I enjoyed talking with my lovely pregnant neighbor, Ruth, I did find myself feeling a little deprived of the pregnancy experience and a little bit awkward having to verbally communicate my Pre-natal state. One can go so quickly frome exuberance to feeling pathetic. We talked baby furniture, strollers, names and fixing our closets to make room for the new addition to our respective families. So we talked like anxious parents to be are wont to do - about all the stuff involved with a new baby. Perhaps that is because talking about what really scares us is just too overwhelming. That is, will our babies love us? will we love them? will our lives be turned upside down.? will we ever have a moment to ourselves again? Will our child be normal, smart, pretty, all that we have hoped for?
Of course, these are all questions that we ask standing on the far side of parenthood- having no idea what to really expect and counting on our intuition, baby books, helpful friends and family to guide us through.
So we continue to wait for news from Russia
The adoption agency is mildly concerned but does not believe Russia will close down international adoptions because the head of the MInistry for family services is very pro-international adoption. So basically, she said, not to be alarmed, this is all a part of the process of adopting from a Foreign country.
the news did put a damper on my spirits. I did go to that dark place of doom and gloom, and started to wonder if we were ever going to have a baby at all.
Perhaps the dark feelings began the other night at our building Xmas party. Although I enjoyed talking with my lovely pregnant neighbor, Ruth, I did find myself feeling a little deprived of the pregnancy experience and a little bit awkward having to verbally communicate my Pre-natal state. One can go so quickly frome exuberance to feeling pathetic. We talked baby furniture, strollers, names and fixing our closets to make room for the new addition to our respective families. So we talked like anxious parents to be are wont to do - about all the stuff involved with a new baby. Perhaps that is because talking about what really scares us is just too overwhelming. That is, will our babies love us? will we love them? will our lives be turned upside down.? will we ever have a moment to ourselves again? Will our child be normal, smart, pretty, all that we have hoped for?
Of course, these are all questions that we ask standing on the far side of parenthood- having no idea what to really expect and counting on our intuition, baby books, helpful friends and family to guide us through.
So we continue to wait for news from Russia
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